Marriage between Suhaimi (15 years) and Nur Herawati (12 years) Underage Kids Forced to Marry After Dating | Child Marriage a resident of Montong Indah Hamlet, Pengenjek Village, Jonggat District
The love story happened in Montong Praje Timuq Hamlet Pengenjek Village, Pringgarata District, Central Lombok. The village, which is a neighbor of Bonjeruk Village, was suddenly busy being discussed. The names Suhaimi and Nur Herawati are like the capital's artists. So the talk of society everywhere. Not to mention, on social media (medsos).
When Lombok Post several times , looked for and asked for their home addresses, residents immediately indicated their position. The residents immediately mentioned their names. Suhaimi was born January 1, 2005. He goes to school at a madrasa in Beber Village. Meanwhile, Nur Herawati was born on August 8, 2008. She attended one of the madrasas in Bonjeruk Village.
The introduction of the two, was quite brief. Starting from his friend's cell phone, Suhaimi was introduced to his future wife. "That was through a video call ," said Nur - her nickname. The two exchanged phone numbers. As a result, communication between the two continued until they decided to meet. The two agreed to meet in front of the Puskesmas Bonjeruk or near the market a few days ago.
That first meeting, turned out to be the next meeting. Suhaimi expresses his heart, wants to date. Without thinking, Nur accepted. The two of them officially became lovers. "We only dated for four days. After that, get married, ”said Nur, while lowering her head and smiling shyly.
The wedding was held on Saturday (12/9) at a musala near Suhaimi's house. The marriage began when the two met again at a tourist attraction in Pringgarata Village. They made an appointment to meet at 16.00 WITA. Because of the fun of dating, they lose track of time. It doesn't feel like it's late at night.
Suhaimi also escorted his lover home. Unfortunately, Nur's parents refused. Suhaimi then asked for family help, but was again refused. "The reason is, instead of going out at night and going out on a date, it's better to just get married," said the head of Montong Praje Hamlet Timuq Ehsan on the sidelines of the Lombok Post talking with Suhaimi and Nur.
Nur himself is the only child of the couple Sutomo and Sahmin. Nur lives with her grandparents in Bonjeruk Village. That's because, his parents divorced. Meanwhile, Suhaimi is the fifth of five children. Rahimin's mother and father passed away, since Suhaimi was in grade 6 elementary school.
Since then, the two of them have received less and more complete attention from their respective two. So they decided they wanted to have a family, have children and want to live independently. Don't want to depend on your parents anymore. Accompanied by his beloved wife Nur Herawati and his mother Rahimin, Suhaimi has learned to be independent. He worked as a trader in several traditional markets in Gumi Tatas Tuhu Trasna. He sells slippers, soap and household items.
He has been doing this job since his father and three older siblings died. Suhaimi is the backbone of the family. Now, he lives with his mother in Montong Praje Timuq Village, Pengenjek, Pringgarata District, Central Lombok. The house with cement floors, roofed tiles and peeling walls, has witnessed the journey of his life.
He said, people out there could sneer and say something nonsense. However, he wanted to prove that his decision to marry early was the right choice. By getting married early, he could be enthusiastic about working. By getting married, he can avoid sin. Evidently, the money needed for marriage, was obtained from his own pocket. Not to the point of making it difficult for parents, family or other closest relatives.
"The dowry of Rp. 2 million, without a set of prayer tools," said Suhaimi. Meanwhile, the money for the bride's family is Rp. 6 million. That is beyond money for thanksgiving or bagawe. Because of Covid-19, he decided that there would be no bullying or reception, just a marriage contract.
Meanwhile, Nur Herawati admitted that she would be loyal to her beloved husband. He didn't want to imitate his parents, who were divorced. He wants his family to stay intact. Meanwhile, Rahimin, Suhaimi's mother, prayed that her two children would be sakinah, mawadah and warahmah. Given offspring who are devoted to parents, homeland and the nation, and benefit the community.
These two teenagers are still minors and they are still in school. This teenage couple married when they were still minors. Suhaimi, who is currently still in class VIII at the private Madrasah Tsanawiyah (MTs) in his village. Meanwhile, Nur Herawati, who is only in grade VII MTs. However, the two teenagers are still married. Nur Herawati's parents still want their child to marry Suhami after objecting to returning home at night after traveling to tourist objects. Suhaimi's family finally married them off at the groom's residence in secret on Saturday (12/9) and then secretly without the knowledge of the Office of Religious Affairs (KUA).
Before the wedding of the Head of the Montong Indah Hamlet (Kadus), Ehsan had made an approach even three weeks before the marriage contract took place. It's just that, Nur Herawati's parents still don't want Herawati to come back. "I suggested that this child be separated first because she is still a minor but Nur's parents still insisted," said Ehsan, Tuesday (15/9).
Four days later, Ehsan visited this cadus from Nur Herawati. There, Ehsan asked the head of the local hamlet to persuade Nur's parents to cancel the marriage. However, the local cadus also could not do much and suggested that the teenage couple just be married. "The Kadus there also said that marriage is done under the hand," said Ehsan.
Because there was no meeting point at that time, he as cadus had disappeared and did not take care of this problem anymore. Suddenly Suhaimi's brother went to the house of the bride's family and they agreed to marry this child. "I also did not attend the wedding. Even though I have tried my best to prevent (marriage) from happening, "he explained. (met)
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